The Ugly Truth

Annie paraded around the ICU

-chained to a rolling IV tower,

-face leashed to rubber airflow,

-directed by an overeager five-year-old,

-prodded by an overaggressive nurse,

-filmed by an excited aunt,

-hand in hand with an anxious mommy

-moaning and crying with each tiny wobble.


What a spectacle. With every groan, new onlookers spotted the procession. I felt equally ridiculous and proud, coaxing her a few more steps to show her the windowed corner unit her frail body rested in when she was a wee four-day-old. “And then look over here, this is where you were at eight weeks old. Oh and over here is where you were at three months old.”


I wanted to shudder. All those tiny sick babies held by lovesick parents just doesn’t seem right. I felt terrible interrupting their sacred moments with my wailing toddler. I looked apologetically into each staring eye.

Until I remembered.

One night I sat in that windowed corner, lovesick, rocking a tiny sick baby late into the night. It had been four long days since I’d had my hands on her. Holding her felt like I could die from the delight and the fear. I sang her the song I’d sang while she grew in my tummy and the world around me stopped. The next day she’d receive her first scars.

One day I sat in that private room, begging God to heal my newborn’s failing heart. Crying over diminished echochardiograms, enraged by sky high BNPs, and too homesick to breathe.

One morning, I finally laid my eyes on her again. Three hours after I’d given her to them. She looked lifeless, swollen, and I knew she was mine.

Those intense survival moments were each joyfully interrupted by a post-Fontan parading toddler. Moaning, wobbling, face leashed to rubber oxygen, tethered to the IV pole. Excited aunt filming each step. Anxious mom holding on tight.

On those days, my eyes were the staring eyes, the begging eyes, the envious eyes, the hoping eyes. What if maybe someday that could be Annie? What if that jagged cut, the swollen head, the IV drip, the aggressive nurse, the bruised pokes were worth it? What if someday the ugliness of today could get us to the beauty of that grunting progression?


Moments ago, I gently bathed an ICU wrecked girl. Today, nine days after open heart surgery number three, Annie was discharged. Sticky residue still covers her elbow from the every morning prick. A jagged scab flakes from her incision. I pinned her down to peel off the last super glued dressings. She kicked and spit at me while I tried to speak softly and tell her that what I was doing was from deep brave love.

But now I sit laughing and selecting kitty stickers in a Philadelphia hotel room. A smiling pink lipped girl hides her battle scars with giggles and remember whens.

Remember when we went to Disney? Remember when I was a baby in that tiny room? Remember when I drove my Barbie car? Remember when the doctor said I could go home to the hotel today?

In about an hour I’ll have to restrain her again, convince her to choke down medicine that she’ll spew back in my face, and then hide my tears so that she’ll choose courage and swallowing.


Remembering the ugly is traumatizing. Living the current ugly is scarring me.  Basking in the absolute beauty of ongoing healing makes it feel the tiniest bit worth it. We’re brushing off the ashes today, wondering what garden could ever grow in this barren place.

But we’re believing in the faithful God who has made beautiful things out of our wretched dust for the past three years. We’re clinging to the life and love and normalcy that has grown from the ugliness of those hope-filled rooms. Because of those frightful days that we’ve gasped through too many times, we can look full shining faces to the future.




4 thoughts on “The Ugly Truth

  1. Lisa says:

    Praise and glory to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for healing little Annie! We have been praying for her and your family every day!!!! My 7 year old daughter, Ava, is in bed now but I can’t wait to tell her in the morning that you are all out of the hospital. She was so concerned about Annie and your family and said she would like to be a doctor one day to help fix little children like Annie and even maybe as a medical missionary. We will continue to pray for you all. Thank you for allowing us the privilege to share your journey. As God’s Word says, “If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.” 1 Cor 12:26. We are rejoicing now!!! ❤️🙏🏼


  2. Krystal Rife says:

    Tracy, I just listened to Family Life today and heard Annie’s story. I am offering hope to you. I too experienced a baby being born very sick and diagnosed shortly after birth with HLHS. He too had his first surgery at just 4 days old. Those were very dark days and the struggle was so real. However, I never felt so close to God since that time. Through my desperate prayers, He showed up, things were still very difficult but he was there. My husband and I clung to James 1:2-4; consider it pure joy when you face trials because the testing of your faith will develop perseverance, let perseverance finish it’s work so you can be mature and complete, not lacking anything. There were times that I wanted to give up, however we also had an older child and knew that we needed to be there for Lukas. My hope to you is that God chose you to be Annie’s mother, He specifically chose you since he knew you could handle it. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be anxious or struggle through this stage of hospitals and surgeries, because I know how difficult it is. But God understands your pain, after all He is our Father. My son Trevor is now 16 years old, he has no limitations and has a heart of gold. He is kind, loving and God has a special plan for his life. Many prayers to you and your family as you go through these trials. Don’t lose hope.


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